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The water didn't get warmer...

I got more bold
and more careless of cold
- Stephan Stubbins
I face the pesky problem
and send it to my head

To find the answer hiding
in my heart instead
- Stephan Stubbins
In a world of "do you love me"

Answer "yes"
- Stephan Stubbins
Compared to you
I tried and grew
a niche of my potential

I let you go
and now I grow
in networks exponential
- Stephan Stubbins
Know the prize is there

...but don't stare
- Stephan Stubbins
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The Blog

The water didn't get warmer...

I got more bold
and more careless of cold
- Stephan Stubbins
Compared to you
I tried and grew
a niche of my potential

I let you go
and now I grow
in networks exponential
- Stephan Stubbins
In a world of "do you love me"

Answer "yes"
- Stephan Stubbins
I face the pesky problem
and send it to my head

To find the answer hiding
in my heart instead
- Stephan Stubbins
Plant your roots amongst the jewels, gentle one
​​You are a forest, far more than just a tree

Withering your majesty serves no one
- Stephan Stubbins
Know the prize is there

...but don't stare
- Stephan Stubbins
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Confidence... are you a waiter or a creator?

Have you ever waited for confidence to show up before committing to do the work? 

Me too…

…and follow me on this…

It’s time to shift from being a confidence waiter to a confidence creator.

You see, while we’re looking at confidence to tell us “I’m going to succeed,” what we’re really asking for is a safe path with little emotional risk (and therefore little reward). 

Even when you move forward after that feeling of confidence does show up, as soon as bigger emotional challenges arise, there goes the feeling of confidence and there goes your probability of completing the endeavor.

If we look at it like a baker 👨🏼‍🍳… 

We sometimes think of confidence as an ingredient needed to bake the cake, when it’s actually the feeling you get once you’ve finished baking the cake and eaten it. 

(mmm… did someone say cake 🍰…) 

In that sense, if you’re waiting for confidence in order to start baking, you could be waiting forever… or you could continue to stop the baking process half-way through because you think you don’t have every ingredient you need.

What if…

…instead of seeking emotional confidence in the early stages of our creations, we replaced it with a commitment to finishing

Purely and simply, confident or not, excellent or not… committing to completing the task and moving on to the next. 

“Good or bad, I’m going to complete this and then I’ll know what’s necessary to complete the next, and the next, and the next.”

And with each completion… you’ve created more confidence

Now, that looks like a great recipe for how to go from waiter to confidence creator

…and of course, every step is easier, and more fun, when you have a great coach by your side that knows the ingredients. 

Sign up for a free coaching call and I’ll get you “happily baking” in no time.

Wishing you the best,
Stephan

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